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This post has been in my head for a while now, and I keep putting it off, 'cause I had this idea that it was gonna be really long, but when it comes down to it, I really think it's a bit short and sweet.
Anyway.....
I've labeled myself as bisexual for a while now... and according to the dictionary definition, that's accurate... but it doesn't FEEL accurate.
'Cause it's notsomuch that I have the hots for men, or that I have the hots for women. Or that I have the hots for people who identify as some other or combined gender, for that matter....
It's more that I have the hots for PEOPLE. And to put it that way is rather facetious, and not the way I mean it at all.
If I find someone interesting, intriguing, kind, etc.. ...well, I'd very likely be interested in having sex with them. It's notsomuch that I have the hots for whatever way they express their gender... it's that whatever their gender is has no bearing on my attraction at all. Ditto for race and any number of other physical factors. I draw the line at poor hygiene, and I agree with my husband's ground rule of "don't stick your dick in crazy", but if you're not a dick, and I otherwise get along with you... I'm pretty sure to be interested.
Now, whether or not I'll act on that interest is another matter entirely. In addition to the hygiene and crazy factors I mentioned above, there's certainly safety factors as far as STDs and pregnancy go. Safety factors of my own physical well-being play a part, of course, too. And I'm not interested in being the "other woman" for someone in a monogamous relationship (with one exception, and if you're reading this, you're not it), and there are probably half a dozen other reasons I might not follow through with sex regardless of my interest level.
But yeah, I'm probably interested. And I'm just not sure that fits the typical definition of bisexual. *shrug*
That being said, I totally need this shirt (since it won't let me do a direct link, it's the one that says - "I'm poly, bi, and kinky and I still won't sleep with you"). *g*
Anyway.....
I've labeled myself as bisexual for a while now... and according to the dictionary definition, that's accurate... but it doesn't FEEL accurate.
'Cause it's notsomuch that I have the hots for men, or that I have the hots for women. Or that I have the hots for people who identify as some other or combined gender, for that matter....
It's more that I have the hots for PEOPLE. And to put it that way is rather facetious, and not the way I mean it at all.
If I find someone interesting, intriguing, kind, etc.. ...well, I'd very likely be interested in having sex with them. It's notsomuch that I have the hots for whatever way they express their gender... it's that whatever their gender is has no bearing on my attraction at all. Ditto for race and any number of other physical factors. I draw the line at poor hygiene, and I agree with my husband's ground rule of "don't stick your dick in crazy", but if you're not a dick, and I otherwise get along with you... I'm pretty sure to be interested.
Now, whether or not I'll act on that interest is another matter entirely. In addition to the hygiene and crazy factors I mentioned above, there's certainly safety factors as far as STDs and pregnancy go. Safety factors of my own physical well-being play a part, of course, too. And I'm not interested in being the "other woman" for someone in a monogamous relationship (with one exception, and if you're reading this, you're not it), and there are probably half a dozen other reasons I might not follow through with sex regardless of my interest level.
But yeah, I'm probably interested. And I'm just not sure that fits the typical definition of bisexual. *shrug*
That being said, I totally need this shirt (since it won't let me do a direct link, it's the one that says - "I'm poly, bi, and kinky and I still won't sleep with you"). *g*
