An Update, Sorta

[bookofmirrors]

I'm depressed today, easily irritable, and generally don't know what I want, making it hard for anyone else to have an idea of how to appease me, either.

Well, of course, I *do* know what I want - I want financial stability, and to have ALL my bills, past and present, paid off in full, and a substantial amount of money in the bank. Not go-buy-a-mansion substantial, but if-we-all-lost-our-jobs-tomorrow-we-wouldn't-be-destitute-and-panicky-for-at-least-3-months substantial. Oh, and to be able to buy furniture and such for the apartment.

This post, however, was meant to be a bit of a poll (without the actual poll). I'm not in the mood to get into the visit with my parents last week. Suffice it to say that things went well. I might go into more detail later, I might not.

However, they did request that I ban 3 members of my family from reading the journal. Now, since none of these people have LJs, I'm thinking the only way to do this is to friends-lock the journal. I mean, yeah, there might be a way to block certain IP addresses, but that would imply that I knew what they were, and would also be contingent on those addresses being static, which is unlikely, and would also assume that no one would ever log on from a computer other than their own. So... again, I can't see a way to do this without just blocking the non-LJ world at large. Which would also block people that I'm glad read my LJ, like Frog, Leo, and Johnny... and Mark, I think... Which I don't want to do. Plus my feeling that the Universe points people in the direction of various things on the internet for a reason, and I hate to block that.

So, I'm interested in people's thoughts on this. I mean, no one's FORCING me to do anything. But I feel like I owe my parents a great deal, and this isn't much to ask on their part. So, tell me what you think about this, and if you have any geekly advice for how I could possibly have my cake and eat it, too, that would be cool.

Thanks.

Comments

[lupaloo.livejournal.com]

You could create an alter ego and make it more anonymous. Friends lock this one and post in the new, less identifiable to family members version publicly. Lots of trouble, but might satisfy everyone's needs without limiting your ability to post without censuring.

[smokierings.livejournal.com]

I think narrowing down what exactly about your journal your parents want locked might help. Find out what content, and perhaps restrict that kind of thing to locked entries. That is, if they're being reasonable about the request.

[(Anonymous)]

How about just a simple 'no'?

Why exactly would you consider this, when you've made a point previously about specifically not censoring your journal?

I don't know the whole situation, obviously, but asking that you ban 3 specific family members... That's just sounds hinky.

Why do your parents care? What leverage do these 3 have? Or is it just to save potential embarrassment?

You know, kids grow up and become adults. Adults that are equally capable of wonderful or embarrassing things. Either way, it's them doing it, not the parents. You are no longer their reflection, you are you. Maybe they need to let go a little more.

[fornorald.livejournal.com]

That was me, by the way. Silly LJ logged me out.

[savage-rose.livejournal.com]

You do whatever makes you feel the best about the situation.

::hugs::

what's the reason?

[isarma.livejournal.com]

I say just hell no. I can think of a few reasons, like, for example: Your mother has cancer and doesn't want those people finding out, before she's ready to tell people. It's reasonable to ask you not to go telling people for her, even if that means locking people you both know our of certain LJ posts, so you can process your feelings without messing with her life. If it's, "Well, I don't want them knowing X." That's lame, that's your choice. I could probably give more specific advice if I knew what they were so worried about.

::hugs::