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bookofmirrorsSince Pam is on vacation, as many therapists are in August, blckwngdorcl and I are pretty much on our own on Wednesdays for this month, which is kinda cool, 'cause we can mostly sleep in, but we had an agenda today. I didn't set the alarm, mind you, but I also didn't roll over and go back to sleep (well, not more than once), nor did I try to entice His Nakedness into staying in bed long past the time we were sleepy.
We metsimplysakka and wyzard_vyrnahnn at the Starbucks on 41 to discuss the most recent drama with the landlords. *rolls eyes* Bottom line is, between some outright lies, some completely unreasonable views and comments, and several things we WOULD win if it were taken to court, they have a lot of legitimate complaints as well, and the money which we truly DON'T owe and shouldn't be held responsible for would be a small amount compared to the money we DO owe them. So, it's absolutely not worth it for us to incur the expense of a lawyer just to have it on paper somewhere that we're right.
We know where we're right, and we know where we're wrong. We know where our integrity lies, and where theirs doesn't.
And that's what matters, in the end.
Unfortunately, however, what that turns out to mean is that they refused to allow us to break down the money in the most fair way, which was that we (blckwngdorcl and I) and they (simplysakka and wyzard_vyrnahnn) each know there are certain things that each is financially responsible for, and some things we're equally responsible for, and we delineated those things, and said that neither couple should be held responsible for the other couple's payments. We were all planning on making payment arrangments separately (which meant they were paying their stuff off in one lump sum, and we were gonna make payments, 'cause our stuff was substantially larger, and our budget substantially smaller). The landlords absolutely refused to agree to this. Legally, of course, they're in the right. Morally and ethically, however, I find that totally unacceptable.
At any rate, we talked about it. They were able to come up with the entire amount owed to the landlords, to pay them in one lump sum, and we'll pay them back, along with the money we already owe them (rounded up, with some nebulous interest, blahblahblah Imlessinterestedinactualamountsaslongasitsfairandthemathiseasy), which comes out to about $8K, which is this hugeass scary amount, which I feel strangely not scared about. We have a payment plan in place (pathetic as it is) untilblckwngdorcl gets a job and we can pay more. I'm totally grateful they're able and willing to do that, and I somehow feel good about this whole thing. Not sure what's up with that, other than it must mean it's all right and good. So, I'm OK with all that.
I'm not going to get into the job thing here, but things are looking very much up regarding that. I might hint strongly that he write something in his LJ, and maybe help co-author it, but lots of promising things going on with that.
Anyway.
From there, we went to visitwaterfall_sh and the new baby, who is just as cute as he looks in the (too few) pictures that walkingbear has posted. When we got there, only Piper and Rheanna were there, 'cause waterfall_sh and ![[livejournal.com profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/external/lj-userinfo.gif)
darkoutside (don't know what animal to use for her) were out shopping with Galen. (Galen needs an LJ!) They were the perfect hostesses, asking us if we'd like to sit down, if we'd like something to drink, and otherwise trying to entertain us. :) Anyway, shortly thereafter, much baby goodness ensued, and much lovely catching up. darkoutside was mostly with the kids in the other room, so I really didn't get a chance to catch up with her, which is a shame, since I found her interesting back in my hang-out-with-people days. But it was really cool to hold the baby, and to watch my husband hold the baby, and to talk to waterfall_sh. We caught up, and that was cool. We even picked up our Yule gift. :)
Later, I was realizing, that, with one exception, and I really have NO idea when it was, I haven't been to their house since their holiday party. So, again, with the one exception, which, if I had to guess, was a few months ago, I haven't been there for like, 9 months. When I think back to actual calendar time, it seems like FOREVER, but for me, whose days run together into a blob of nothingness and sameness such that even the memorable moments are fuzzy and indistinct (redundant much?), it doesn't seem like that long. In actuality, I've been effectively out of the community, with very few and far between exceptions, since I started my job at Sona and with my first client (one of these days, I'm gonna have to ask him if he considers my service with him under the same privacy codes as if I were working an official job... I feel silly calling him "my client", but old habits die hard in that sense... plus, I hate not using real names in my LJ... and that sense of professionalism is the only time I break that rule of thumb). And that's a long time, boys and girls. When I go back, there are going to be people who don't even know me. I've got no cred. And I shouldn't need it, but still.
Besides, my own personal religion doesn't fit neatly into any category, and I feel totally lame when I try to describe it. It's pretty darn close togaeasson's view on things, and he describes it much more eloquently than I ever could. I've neither had (nor made) the time to think about shit. I'm flying by the seat of my pants lately, and breaking a lot of my own rules. Y'know, like taking time for one's self. Which, ironically, is what I'm doing now. At the expense of one of my other rules, which involves getting enough sleep. *glances at time*
*shrug* I'm workin' on it. Currently, my rule about paying the rent and having a roof over my head is taking precedence.
Anyway, we didn't get to see the rest of whatblckwngdorcl coined the "Serendipitous Quartet", 'cause we left before then, to get to the coffee tasting.
On the way, we decided we were both starving, having not eaten since about 6 hours before. We didn't have any money except a QT card with about $17 on it. Sadly, I had purchased a $50 card last week when I got paid, still not registering the rise in prices which means that $50 is NOT going to buy two tanks of gas like it used to. So, yesterday when I filled my tank, it took most of the card, so we said fuck it, and went to QT to buy cheapass convenience store food, which we cooked in their microwave, and ate in the parking lot. It was, of course, totally poor white trash, and sad as such, but in a way, I found it kinda endearing. Things are looking up in ways they haven't in the past. I've paid lip service to him getting a job in the past, 'cause I knew his heart really wasn't in it, and I didn't want to do the work for him (and didn't have the time to, anyway), and really just wasn't holding my breath for it. Now, however, his energy has changed. I know he's ready, and it's time, and it's going to happen soon, and be good. So, sitting there, having spent the last of the money on the card, having less than $10 in total assetts to our names (and WAY into negative numbers, of course, if you count debts owed to various places), eating cheap, bad, food, I was struck simply by how much I was enjoying being with him, sharing that simple thing in life, and told him how this was one of those moments we were going to remember when we were successful. And in the midst of that pathetic poverty (when I make about $50K/year... go figure), I was happy, and hopeful, and knew (know!) in my heart that things are going to be fine.
Anyway, after that, we made our way to the coffee tasting,elephantankh, of course, was there, leading the show, and we were surprised to see rae_la_fai come in, too. We got to talk to her in between learning about espresso roast, italian roast, and french roast (and tasting them!), so that was way cool. I haven't seen her in... ummm... ever. Last I remember was a LONG ago ![[livejournal.com profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/external/lj-community.gif)
tc_borderpagans. We exchanged some potential useful job info, so that's always good. It was another fun time had by all.
After which, we made it home. To an undoubtedly tasty meal made bylunenoire, which I wasn't hungry enough to try. (Did I mention the beautiful presentation?) :) Anyway, I've been going between writing this entry, and chatting with my husbands, sharing music, and otherwise just hanging out.
It was my intention to come home and, in addition to this entry, make some really deep entries about some things that are going on in my life right now. But, right now, with them in the office, the energy/atmosphere is totally not conducive to that, and neither of them appear to be going to bed anytime soon. I, of course, haven't bothered to mention that I'd even like this to happen, 'cause I'd feel bad for kicking them out, and that would fuck with the energy even more, and make me even less likely to write anything, so I'm figuring either the Universe isn't really interested in me baring my soul tonight, or I'm just supposed to continue to sacrifice sleep for it. Not sure I like either option. My issue, though, so I'll deal.
Anyway, this particular entry is done. If I don't get to the deep shit tonight, I'll keep both their asses out this weekend and plant myself in front of the computer and type my little heart out.
blckwngdorcl and I are pretty much on our own on Wednesdays for this month, which is kinda cool, 'cause we can mostly sleep in, but we had an agenda today. I didn't set the alarm, mind you, but I also didn't roll over and go back to sleep (well, not more than once), nor did I try to entice His Nakedness into staying in bed long past the time we were sleepy. We met
simplysakka and wyzard_vyrnahnn at the Starbucks on 41 to discuss the most recent drama with the landlords. *rolls eyes* Bottom line is, between some outright lies, some completely unreasonable views and comments, and several things we WOULD win if it were taken to court, they have a lot of legitimate complaints as well, and the money which we truly DON'T owe and shouldn't be held responsible for would be a small amount compared to the money we DO owe them. So, it's absolutely not worth it for us to incur the expense of a lawyer just to have it on paper somewhere that we're right. We know where we're right, and we know where we're wrong. We know where our integrity lies, and where theirs doesn't.
And that's what matters, in the end.
Unfortunately, however, what that turns out to mean is that they refused to allow us to break down the money in the most fair way, which was that we (
blckwngdorcl and I) and they (simplysakka and wyzard_vyrnahnn) each know there are certain things that each is financially responsible for, and some things we're equally responsible for, and we delineated those things, and said that neither couple should be held responsible for the other couple's payments. We were all planning on making payment arrangments separately (which meant they were paying their stuff off in one lump sum, and we were gonna make payments, 'cause our stuff was substantially larger, and our budget substantially smaller). The landlords absolutely refused to agree to this. Legally, of course, they're in the right. Morally and ethically, however, I find that totally unacceptable. At any rate, we talked about it. They were able to come up with the entire amount owed to the landlords, to pay them in one lump sum, and we'll pay them back, along with the money we already owe them (rounded up, with some nebulous interest, blahblahblah Imlessinterestedinactualamountsaslongasitsfairandthemathiseasy), which comes out to about $8K, which is this hugeass scary amount, which I feel strangely not scared about. We have a payment plan in place (pathetic as it is) until
blckwngdorcl gets a job and we can pay more. I'm totally grateful they're able and willing to do that, and I somehow feel good about this whole thing. Not sure what's up with that, other than it must mean it's all right and good. So, I'm OK with all that.I'm not going to get into the job thing here, but things are looking very much up regarding that. I might hint strongly that he write something in his LJ, and maybe help co-author it, but lots of promising things going on with that.
Anyway.
From there, we went to visit
waterfall_sh and the new baby, who is just as cute as he looks in the (too few) pictures that walkingbear has posted. When we got there, only Piper and Rheanna were there, 'cause waterfall_sh and darkoutside (don't know what animal to use for her) were out shopping with Galen. (Galen needs an LJ!) They were the perfect hostesses, asking us if we'd like to sit down, if we'd like something to drink, and otherwise trying to entertain us. :) Anyway, shortly thereafter, much baby goodness ensued, and much lovely catching up. darkoutside was mostly with the kids in the other room, so I really didn't get a chance to catch up with her, which is a shame, since I found her interesting back in my hang-out-with-people days. But it was really cool to hold the baby, and to watch my husband hold the baby, and to talk to waterfall_sh. We caught up, and that was cool. We even picked up our Yule gift. :)Later, I was realizing, that, with one exception, and I really have NO idea when it was, I haven't been to their house since their holiday party. So, again, with the one exception, which, if I had to guess, was a few months ago, I haven't been there for like, 9 months. When I think back to actual calendar time, it seems like FOREVER, but for me, whose days run together into a blob of nothingness and sameness such that even the memorable moments are fuzzy and indistinct (redundant much?), it doesn't seem like that long. In actuality, I've been effectively out of the community, with very few and far between exceptions, since I started my job at Sona and with my first client (one of these days, I'm gonna have to ask him if he considers my service with him under the same privacy codes as if I were working an official job... I feel silly calling him "my client", but old habits die hard in that sense... plus, I hate not using real names in my LJ... and that sense of professionalism is the only time I break that rule of thumb). And that's a long time, boys and girls. When I go back, there are going to be people who don't even know me. I've got no cred. And I shouldn't need it, but still.
Besides, my own personal religion doesn't fit neatly into any category, and I feel totally lame when I try to describe it. It's pretty darn close to
gaeasson's view on things, and he describes it much more eloquently than I ever could. I've neither had (nor made) the time to think about shit. I'm flying by the seat of my pants lately, and breaking a lot of my own rules. Y'know, like taking time for one's self. Which, ironically, is what I'm doing now. At the expense of one of my other rules, which involves getting enough sleep. *glances at time* *shrug* I'm workin' on it. Currently, my rule about paying the rent and having a roof over my head is taking precedence.
Anyway, we didn't get to see the rest of what
blckwngdorcl coined the "Serendipitous Quartet", 'cause we left before then, to get to the coffee tasting.On the way, we decided we were both starving, having not eaten since about 6 hours before. We didn't have any money except a QT card with about $17 on it. Sadly, I had purchased a $50 card last week when I got paid, still not registering the rise in prices which means that $50 is NOT going to buy two tanks of gas like it used to. So, yesterday when I filled my tank, it took most of the card, so we said fuck it, and went to QT to buy cheapass convenience store food, which we cooked in their microwave, and ate in the parking lot. It was, of course, totally poor white trash, and sad as such, but in a way, I found it kinda endearing. Things are looking up in ways they haven't in the past. I've paid lip service to him getting a job in the past, 'cause I knew his heart really wasn't in it, and I didn't want to do the work for him (and didn't have the time to, anyway), and really just wasn't holding my breath for it. Now, however, his energy has changed. I know he's ready, and it's time, and it's going to happen soon, and be good. So, sitting there, having spent the last of the money on the card, having less than $10 in total assetts to our names (and WAY into negative numbers, of course, if you count debts owed to various places), eating cheap, bad, food, I was struck simply by how much I was enjoying being with him, sharing that simple thing in life, and told him how this was one of those moments we were going to remember when we were successful. And in the midst of that pathetic poverty (when I make about $50K/year... go figure), I was happy, and hopeful, and knew (know!) in my heart that things are going to be fine.
Anyway, after that, we made our way to the coffee tasting,
elephantankh, of course, was there, leading the show, and we were surprised to see rae_la_fai come in, too. We got to talk to her in between learning about espresso roast, italian roast, and french roast (and tasting them!), so that was way cool. I haven't seen her in... ummm... ever. Last I remember was a LONG ago tc_borderpagans. We exchanged some potential useful job info, so that's always good. It was another fun time had by all.After which, we made it home. To an undoubtedly tasty meal made by
lunenoire, which I wasn't hungry enough to try. (Did I mention the beautiful presentation?) :) Anyway, I've been going between writing this entry, and chatting with my husbands, sharing music, and otherwise just hanging out.It was my intention to come home and, in addition to this entry, make some really deep entries about some things that are going on in my life right now. But, right now, with them in the office, the energy/atmosphere is totally not conducive to that, and neither of them appear to be going to bed anytime soon. I, of course, haven't bothered to mention that I'd even like this to happen, 'cause I'd feel bad for kicking them out, and that would fuck with the energy even more, and make me even less likely to write anything, so I'm figuring either the Universe isn't really interested in me baring my soul tonight, or I'm just supposed to continue to sacrifice sleep for it. Not sure I like either option. My issue, though, so I'll deal.
Anyway, this particular entry is done. If I don't get to the deep shit tonight, I'll keep both their asses out this weekend and plant myself in front of the computer and type my little heart out.
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Date: 2005-08-11 04:44 am (UTC)Anyway, take care, and I'll be getting you those deposit slips. Perhaps one of these Wednesday nights, we (or I, at least) will make it to one of those coffee tastings. Java rules!
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Date: 2005-08-11 04:49 am (UTC)