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[bookofmirrors]

So, I've made a new journal online to write the things my parents have asked me to keep hidden from certain family members, with whom they're none too happy with for having shared my LiveJournal with them. This is my compromise. ALL my journals are public. However, you'll have to comment/email me to get the roadmap to the new one. (Um... if you're one of the people giving information to my parents, don't bother. Or go ahead and bother, if you like. Just be prepared for any reaction.)

Don't worry, I'll still use this one... just not for stuff my parents have chosen not to hear.

I'll give a few more details on this later, but after playing with the prettyshinies on the new journal, I'm not really in the mood to write anything right now.

Comments

[fey-touched.livejournal.com]

Pretty please?

[bookofmirrors.livejournal.com]

Done, via IM

[elorie.livejournal.com]

...or you can just add me.

[bookofmirrors.livejournal.com]

I could, if the journal was on LJ. ;)

[bookofmirrors.livejournal.com]

Done, via email.

[spy-isis.livejournal.com]

This sorta makes me sad for some reason, not sure why, but draw me a map baby.

[bookofmirrors.livejournal.com]

Done, via IM (Yahoo)

[bheansidhe.livejournal.com]

A reason my parents will never know the name of my livejournal. *sigh*

[bookofmirrors.livejournal.com]

Done, via email.

[bookofmirrors.livejournal.com]

Actually, I don't care if my parents read my LJ. However, THEY care not to read it, or have it passed on.

[dv8dgrrl.livejournal.com]

Yes, please. :) You and I share so much in our mindsets, yet we are still very different. I love reading about the things you learn about yourself. In some respects, it helps me learn about me.
*hugs*

[bookofmirrors.livejournal.com]

Done, via email.

[isarma.livejournal.com]

Please:)

[bookofmirrors.livejournal.com]

Done, via IM

[simplysakka.livejournal.com]

I'd be interested, if you'll have me.

You'll need to probably e-mail me, however, since my IMs aren't up currently.

[bookofmirrors.livejournal.com]

Done, via email.

[simplysakka.livejournal.com]

Which? I checked my Yahoo mail, my hotmail, and my Gmail, and even my Comcast mail. But I've not received anything from you anywhere.

Tell you what. Send it again, to my main mailbox, which is sakka_geisha@hotmail.com. Thanks muchly.

[bookofmirrors.livejournal.com]

Hmmmm.... that *is* the email I sent it to. Weird. But, I sent it again, just in case...

[jb-27.livejournal.com]

So, if I understand correctly, your family members read scandalous stuff in your LJ, then go talk about it to your parents, and your parents' solution is to ask you to keep that stuff out of your LJ? Why not just say, "I'm sorry, but I don't care to discuss that topic with you." It sounds like it's their responsibility to express that boundary to their relatives (who must enjoy reading your LJ if they come back to it).

It'd be another thing if you said, "I want to keep this secret from my family." I don't mean to disrespect your compromise. I realize that when dealing with people, the "best" solution isn't always the "right" one. But damn.

[bookofmirrors.livejournal.com]

You basically have it right. :) My parents didn't ask me to keep it out of my LJ, per se. Just to keep it from the eyes of those particular relatives. However, I have several non-LJ users (friends from Illinois, mostly) who keep up with my life via reading my LJ, so I didn't want to friends-lock my posts. Nor prevent others from finding it. (Hell, if I'd been worried about that to begin with, I wouldn't have made the journal public to begin with.)

And yeah, you're totally right. It IS my parents' responsibility to tell those relatives that what they're doing is hurtful. At least one of these relatives, however, can be pretty vindictive, and I know that my parents don't want to be in a situation where they (would perceive that they) are responsible for creating a rift. I think they think they're too old to be cutting ties with their family/peers. This is a case of the frazzled parent taking the toy from old child (to whom it belongs) and giving it to the baby that's screaming for it. They know it's the wrong thing to do, and they sympathize with the child who's had their toy wrongly taken away, but their goal is peace and quiet.

In the interest of choosing my battles, I've decided this isn't one I want to fight. The blog I had before LJ was also private, and very few people had a link to it, so it's not entirely out of character for me.

And honestly, I don't CARE if my parents know about my life. It doesn't matter to ME what they know (as long as it's accurate). It hurts THEM a great deal, though. They've chosen blissful ignorance, and my own ethics are satisfied, since I'm not personally attempting to keep the stuff out of my LJ from them. (There are certainly other things, childhood wounds that have affected me and such, that I don't share. I'd like to someday, I think. Or I might be too scared to. I'll know when it happens, I suppose.)

ouch

[meadowhawk.livejournal.com]

I would like the link, but if it is not LJ, I will probably not be able to keep up as easily. Sorry about the family craziness, but I understand that what is best for you is not always what is best for you as an individual. However, it is always disappointing when someone elses flaws create internal contradictions.

Re: ouch

[bookofmirrors.livejournal.com]

Done, via email.

(I didn't think you ever read LJ anymore!)

[savage-rose.livejournal.com]

I would like it! Can you comment the address or name or whatever in that screened post I made last week?

[bookofmirrors.livejournal.com]

All your posts look screened to me. :) I sent it via the email you have listed on your LJ profile.

[sexxyred1.livejournal.com]

me, please. I find you interesting to read, as we share a lt of similarities, even though I rarely post these days....

[bookofmirrors.livejournal.com]

Done, via email. Love the icon. ;)

[bookofmirrors.livejournal.com]

Ummmm... OK, correction to that. Both emails listed on your LJ got sent back to me. Help?

[always-a-storm.livejournal.com]

I would love to peek.

By the way, reading the post that linked here, I was getting a very calm peaceful feeling as I went along.

You must be mellow these days.

And I owe BlackOracle an apology. When you were hurting over him dating an ex, I thought he should stop if only because it hurt you so much. Evidently, things are not always as they seem.

Being monogamous, I don't always get it when it comes to poly.

glad life is good for you these days...

[bookofmirrors.livejournal.com]

Getting there. :)

There's certainly more to the relationship stuff on the "secret" post... I'll need an email for you to give you the link, though.

[waterfall-sh.livejournal.com]

Missed this the first time through... Can I still get directions? :-)

[bookofmirrors.livejournal.com]

Sent, via email.

How'd I...

[walkingbear.livejournal.com]

... miss this? :)